Boundaries come from a place of deep love. Yes, they come from self-care, but they actually come from deep love of the other person/people as well. When we set boundaries, it is a realistic expectation, and it comes from a realistic state of being.
In our society, the word “shy” seems to be the go-to word for anyone who seems quiet. People notice those who don’t speak much, and instantly label them shy. However, there is a big difference in the meaning of shy and introversion. Additionally, social anxiety tends to go along with shyness, not necessarily introversion.
life. For a quick summary, the story centers around Nora, a woman in her 30’s who feels dejected by most of the people in her life, and feels woefully inadequate and isn’t sure if she has turned down several possible promising trajectories her life could have taken based on her particular hobbies and studies. At some point, she finds herself in the Midnight Library, which allows her to see what would have happened in life if she had followed those other paths, and even some more mundane choices she could have made. I believe that the book’s goal is to point out to us that we can question “what if I had done it this way?” for the rest of our lives, but if we aren’t content to live in the present moment, and create and nurture our most important relationships, life isn’t worth living.
The most confusion in the Myers Briggs typing indicator, is typically the second letter of the four-letter types, N or S; intuition or sensing. A lot of times people use both, and are unsure which they use more of, and more often than not, I have found that this letter preference is hardest for opposite types to be accepting of, and accommodating of.
The topic of impatience has come up a lot for me lately, and not to mention, it was a recent topic in Lauren Sapala’s most recent class called The Joyful Writer. I never thought of myself as an impatient person, in fact, I had been complimented on my extreme patience and low maintenance in the past. But I recently realized that while I have patience for other people, I do not have patience with myself. In fact, I was so caught up in being impatient with myself and feeling like I was running out of time all the time, that was what was causing issues in my closest relationships.
I took a class on the opposite J and P preferences this past weekend, which is the 4th letter that makes up a Myers-Briggs 4 letter type. I’ve always known the main differences between the two, but it was fascinating hearing it articulated, and also hearing from sets of people in relationships, and how eachContinue reading “J or P – The 4th Letter in the Myers-Briggs Personality Type”
Happy Sunday! In continuing with the relationship series after a brief hiatus, today I will discuss INFJ’s with INTJ’s. I am intentionally starting with INFJ (as my own type) but will expand out from there. Please let me now if there is a type pairing you are interested in, and I am happy to write a bit about it! Again, remember toContinue reading “INFJ/INTJ Relationships”
-Do you ever feel like you are really low on energy? Or just downright tired?
-Do you feel like you are wading through mud, or your brain feels foggy?
-Do you ever think you might want to take a break, but then struggle with knowing if it is actually the best thing for you or not?
A common pairing for INFJ is ENFP. The similarities between the two types are the “NF” middle two letters, also called the mental function in MBTI. A lot of people see the middle two letters as very important to have in common, because typically people with the same mental functions will have a similar objective in life, and view of the world. For instance, NF’s tend to look for a deeper meaning and connection with people and everything endeavor in life.
Does loud music overwhelm you? Do you get stressed by loud noises or a lot of external stimuli? Do things like roller coasters actually feel painful instead of fun? Do you feel emotions very deeply? Do certain foods affect you more than they seems to affect other people? Do you ever get called “too sensitive”? If any of these apply to you, or other similar things, you may be a highly sensitive person, like me.