The Server Archetype

I’ve been researching archetypes recently and have learned all about the different types. There are seven different archetypes; sage, server, scholar, priest, warrior, king and artisan. The idea behind these types is that each person has an archetype that mostly defines their purpose in this lifetime. My mom and I have discussed this theory, as well as the types, and we determined that I am a server, and she is a warrior. Given that according to research, the server is the most common role, I thought I would discuss a little about the potentially negative side of being a server, in the hopes that it will help someone (haha not intentional, I swear).

A server is someone who wants to help mankind, and they are purpose driven to help as many people as they can throughout their life. The possibility of going negative with any archetype is possible, as with anything in life. The dark side of a server is forgetting to take care of yourself, because you have gotten so involved in taking care of others. What I’d like to propose is the idea of boundary setting. Knowing your limits and sticking to the boundaries you have set to protect those limits, and subsequently your own energy levels. I struggled at first to figure out what my limits are. Try meditating on this thought and spending some time to yourself until you figure out what you need. Journaling is also an effective way to sort through your thoughts and emotions. Once you have your boundaries solidly identified, try the following to set some boundaries:

  • Pick a certain time of the week and block of time for yourself, for whatever it is you want to work on. It could be as simple as reading, or watching a show you like, by yourself
  • Have deep and vulnerable conversations with those around you about what you need. You’d be surprised at how much this expands trust and intimacy within relationships
  • Pick at least one activity that you do on an on-going basis that YOU enjoy. Don’t pick it for anyone else except yourself. For me, I am on the Board of a non-profit, and volunteer in my local community

Read this article if you are interested in learning more about archetypes, and there is a little quiz in there to find out which one you are:

Happy Sunday readers!

Love,

Teal

Being Vulnerable

This week I want to share about being vulnerable. It is something I struggle with, and from what I have heard, it sounds like there are others out there who struggle with the same.

I have learned the hard way that sometimes just saying what is on your mind is actually a win-win for everyone. When something happens that I feel betrayed by (this can be anything – even something I feel is tiny), my instant reaction is to spiral into anger and frustration. It takes courage to speak your mind and tell someone how you are feeling. For me, it takes a bit of mental preparation, but I have found that speaking my mind is a great way to connect and even feel closer in my closest relationships. So why not try it? Bring something up that has been weighing heavily on your mind lately. To be clear, the approach you use does matter. Attacking someone is not a way to get your point across. Well it is, but it usually isn’t effective. Here are some ideas to start the flow of conversation:

  • Ask the person about the subject first, and really hear them out
  • Start with explaining that you’d like to talk about something on your mind, but just be completely honest. Say, “I’d like to be vulnerable with you & so I am sharing…”
  • You can even start by affirming them first. “You are a really great listener and I appreciate you for that.”

I also really recommend the book by Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection:

Have a fantastic Sunday, readers.

Love,

Teal

Unpacking Emotions

There is so much going on in the world, that sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves. Turmoil brings up all sorts of emotions, and a lot of times we can’t put a finger on where the emotion is coming from and what it is trying to tell us. I woke up inextricably sad this morning, and I didn’t have a clue about the depths of where the sadness was coming from. It was deeply buried in my subconscious mind. A good friend of mine reminded me that journaling was a great way to “dig up” where these emotions were coming from. I found so much to unpack in my subconscious, that I quickly almost wanted to throw it all back in. 😊

But I won’t, and I think I can pick one thing to work on and make better, (notice I did not use the word perfect, since no one is), and continue to work towards the empowered version of myself.

So try it out! Next time you are feeling an unidentified emotion, start asking yourself, and most importantly write or type your answers:

  1. Why am I feeling this way? Also, try to locate where you feel the feeling in your body
  2. Is there disappointment, fear or anger hidden somewhere in these feelings?
  3. If I could change something, what would I change and why?
  4. Is there anything I am suppressing that I don’t realize?
  5. What would I like to learn about myself from this process?

I hope you all have a lovely Sunday and feel free to drop me a note anytime.

Love,

Teal

Struggling to Make an Important Decision?

I have struggled most of my life to determine what the best course of action is to take when multiple options present themselves to me. This indecisiveness comes from a number of fears, fear that I will choose the wrong option, fear that I can’t back out once I have chosen, fear that making a certain choice will undermine someone else, fear of what the future may hold.

But the consequences of not acting can sometimes be far greater than making a decision and sticking with it. There is no easy answer here, but there are some ways you can start to hone in on your “gut instinct” and move forward choosing the decision that is best for you. The second part of the trick is to not second guess yourself and let go of the other options once you have chosen. I am going to focus on the first part now and give you a few ideas to work on connecting yourself to your true intuition. Like I said, it’s not necessarily easy, and it may take time for the answer to come to you. But trust that it will.

  • Ask your intuition every night before bed to help you answer the question. A lot of inspiration can come to you in the form of dreams (which then may need to be interpreted)
  • Journaling – asking yourself the question and then free writing can lead to a creative opening that will answer your question
  • Meditating & again, asking yourself the question you need help with

Connecting with your intuition will be the best thing you have ever done! Give it time, but put some effort into it, and you will see results.

Love,

Teal

The Law of Attraction

Hi everyone and welcome to my first blog post! I wanted to get the ball rolling by talking about something that has been on my mind lately and that is the concept of vibrational energy and the law of attraction. First, I’ll start by telling you that each of you has a vibrational energy and you can use this energy to be whoever you want to be. Whatever you believe in, you still have a frequency that your inner source is aligned with. Aligning yourself to a positive vibrational energy isn’t easy. The world conditions us to become negative and talk to ourselves with negative self-talk, by saying that we must always “fix” ourselves. We are either too overweight, too skinny, too quiet, too loud, too dumb, too smart, too easy to please, too hard to please, and many more. We are never just “good enough”. BUT the good news is that NONE OF THAT MATTERS. What matters is how you talk to yourself and how you choose to treat your inner light source or spirit. All of this is well and good, but you may ask, “how in the world do I start realigning my inner self-talk and inner vibrational energy to where I want to be in life?”

There is a lot of advice out there on this topic, but I think what really needs to be talked about is HOW to align your energy. Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • A daily meditation practice
    • there are many apps you can use to start this
  • A daily gratitude practice
    • try journaling 3 things you are thankful for each day
  • Affirmations
    • if they feel too extreme, start with something like “I am grateful for the chance to….”
  • Listening to/watching things that align with your vibrational energy
    • Abraham Hicks has a great YouTube channel
  • Envisioning source light in each person you interact with
    • just picture light in the chest of each person and envision positive intent in everyone you interact with

These are just some ideas to get going! Just implementing one of them will have a huge impact on your mental and physical health. Give it a try and let me know how it goes in the comments below! They say that it takes 21 days to create a habit, although I believe it to be a bit longer than that. However, if you are looking for when you might start seeing some changes, try it for 21 days and see what you find 😊

Love,

Teal

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