The Highly Sensitive Person

Does loud music overwhelm you? Do you get stressed by loud noises or a lot of external stimuli? Do things like roller coasters actually feel painful instead of fun? Do you feel emotions very deeply? Do certain foods affect you more than they seems to affect other people? Do you ever get called “too sensitive”? If any of these apply to you, or other similar things, you may be a highly sensitive person, like me. All it means is that you have a sensitive nervous system, and you can be easily overwhelmed or overstimulated. This is called sensory processing sensitivity. If any of this resonates, I recommend the book The Highly Sensitive Person, by Elaine Aron:

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0553062182/ref=nosim?tag=infiniteteals-20

Reading this book changed my life, and actually helped me to understand myself better. I learned how to set boundaries, with others and with myself. I learned how to reframe my thoughts, and now I know that my sensitivity is a strength and not a weakness. I learned how to become an advocate for other highly sensitive people. Because highly sensitive people aren’t the majority of the world, we can be easily misunderstood. It’s helpful to know that there are others out there, and that we have tools to survive. High sensitivity is a gift, but it can also be very difficult to navigate through. Please reach out to me if you are struggling with this at all.

I’d also just love to hear from you in general, what subjects would help you to learn more about? Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

My website is: www.infinitetealskies.com

Link to MBTI Training Institute: https://mbtitraininginstitute.myersbriggs.org/

Additionally, I have a free gift offering! When you sign up for my newsletter on my website, you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here: Teal’s Newsletter

Happy Sunday!

Love,
Teal

What in Your Life Would You Most Like Help With?

I’d love to hear from you! 

What in your life would you most love help with? Anxiety? Overwhelm? Relationships?

Email me at: infinitetealskies@gmail.com or leave a comment!

I’ve been reading Autobiography of a Yogi, and it is absolutely life changing. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. I have found that connecting to my higher power each day, and meditating, has helped me to calm my thoughts and inner voice. My typical level of anxiety has almost disappeared. I can’t say that a really big, important meeting wouldn’t still cause me some anxiety, but certain things that used to cause me daily anxiety, no longer cause that reaction in me. It’s important for our mental health to find what works for us to calm our minds!

Link to MBTI Training Institute for finding your type: https://mbtitraininginstitute.myersbriggs.org/  

Additionally, I have a free gift offering! When you sign up for my newsletter on my website, you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here: Teal’s Newsletter  

I can also help if you don’t know your type and want to find out. I am a certified MBTI practitioner and can help you to find your best fit type. Take a look at my coaching and consultation page on the website for more information.  

Happy Sunday & Daylight Savings! I hope the lost hour wasn’t as rough for you as it was for me….whew!

Love, 

Teal 

Myers-Briggs Type and Stress

I’d love to hear from you, readers!

As mentioned previously, when we continue to live in a MBTI letter preference that isn’t our preferred letter preference, this is what causes us stress. For example, an intuitive living in a very sensory environment (i.e. a corporate engineering company) can cause a lot of stress for that person. A person with a preference for intuition can certainly use sensing, and use it well, however, not being able to theorize, or think abstractly or ask “what if?” will cause the person with the intuition preference to become stifled and stressed. In extreme cases with no relief, this can lead to depression and anxiety. We can use our knowledge of our MBTI letter preferences, the cognitive functions and what causes each type stress and anxiety to mitigate overwhelm and stress.

This is where you come in. I’d love to hear your type, what causes you stress, and how you overcome & mitigate it. Feel free to comment on the blog post, but also email me! I’d love to hear from you:

Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

Link to MBTI Training Institute: https://mbtitraininginstitute.myersbriggs.org/ 

Additionally, I have a free gift offering! When you sign up for my newsletter on my website, you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here:  Teal’s Newsletter 

I can also help if you don’t know your type and want to find out. I am a certified MBTI practitioner and can help you to find your best fit type. Take a look at my coaching and consultation page on the website for more information.

Happy Sunday! 

Love,

Teal

MBTI Types and Overwhelm

Everyone uses all eight letters of the MBTI. However, everyone also has a natural preference for one letter over the other, which makes up your four-letter type. When we use our preference letter that is not natural to us too often, this is what causes us stress. For example, an introvert who is in sales as a career may experience stress throughout the day, or exhaustion at the end of a long day, in which they had to speak and outwardly express themselves to many individuals. This does mean the introvert is not good at sales, it just means that they are living outside of their normal preference letter.

We can use MBTI to figure out why someone may have higher levels of stress and/or anxiety. Each four-letter preference type has its own cognitive functions. The first cognitive function in the stack is the one that each person will use the most and rely on to identify and relate to the world. Without going into too much detail here, there is also an inferior function, which is the fourth function in your cognitive function stack. When we are stressed or anxious, we can get into a cognitive function loop, meaning we are living life on repeat of our inferior function. For example, the INFJ’s (my type) cognitive functions are: introverted intuition, extroverted feeling, introverted thinking and extroverted sensing. So, extroverted sensing is my inferior function. When I am caught up in stress, I may overeat, over-exercise, and get caught up in overly sensing details in the external world when I am stressed. I get stressed when I am not able to relate to the world using introverted intuition, which can be for various reasons.

I will go deeper into these cognitive functions in the coming weeks here on the blog, but I wanted to give a high-level overview so that you can understand what I may be able to help you with as an MBTI practitioner. We can do an initial type assessment to find out your type, and then if you are interested, we can continue with life coaching, so that I can help you find your stressors and work through them.

I’d love your input and to hear what you think. What is your type and what makes you feel stressed? Please email me and let’s start a conversation!

Link to MBTI Training Institute: https://mbtitraininginstitute.myersbriggs.org/

Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

Additionally, I have a free gift offering! When you sign up for my newsletter on my website, you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here: Teal’s Newsletter

Happy Sunday!

Love,

Teal

Why You Want to Know & Use MBTI To Understand Your Relationships

When you know your own Myers-Briggs type, it is eye opening. There are so many things you can do with the knowledge; figuring out your stressors, figuring out your career; or even using it to navigate a challenging situation. But when you know the MBTI of the people around you, in your life and in your relationships, you hold the key to peaceful communication with others; complete understanding and knowledge of others; how others act, and why the act the way they do.

Once you are able to understand and identify others types – some examples are: your parents; your siblings; your significant other; your friends; your co-workers, you can really make a difference, especially in a challenging relationship that you cannot choose (i.e. parents, siblings or coworkers). Each preference type has a different way of processing the world; through decision making; through processing information; through planning out their life; through identifying the world and others, and the only way to understand why someone does something the way they do it, is to know their MBTI.

Let’s start with a simple example, as this is a very common one that plays out in all types of relationships. The 4th letter in the series is either people with a preference for judging, or a preference for perceiving. Those with a preference for judging prefer to get things done in advance of a deadline. They like to have the project done, so that they have time to make tweaks, change things as needed, or just be done with it and know it’s turned in and checked off their to-do list. People with a preference for judging can experience anxiety if they don’t get the task done in advance, thinking that they may likely miss the deadline, or be too pressured to complete it in a short amount of time that they won’t give the project the time it deserves. They also like to check off tasks because they want to save money, for example, they will go ahead and cancel that subscription, so they aren’t surprised by the charge on their card the following month.

People with a perceiving preference are the opposite. They enjoy the pressure the deadline gives them, and often won’t start on the project until just enough time prior to the deadline to complete the project. They tend to think about the project, and think of ideas for it prior to, and just up until, starting the project, but they don’t actually start it until they have just enough time to do so. In the instance that they don’t budget enough time for it, they are comfortable negotiating an extension of the deadline, or in some cases anxiety is caused for these types if they are nervous to ask for an extension, and then they can feel as though they have let someone down (the reaction and response to this goes into the other letter preferences).  In the example of the subscription cancellation, they will likely wait until the day before to cancel it, so that they can get the most benefit out of the subscription, even if that means running the risk that they forget to cancel it and are charged again.

Anyway, you can see how this can play out at work, or in a romantic relationship. If you manage someone at work, and you have a preference for judging, and they have a preference for perceiving, you may have to have an upfront expectation conversation with them, because otherwise, they are not likely to understand why you want the project completed in advance of the deadline, and feel as though you are micromanaging them. The opposite can happen as well, where if the manager were someone with a perceiving preference, they can judge the person working for them, wondering why they act so quickly, and wondering why they cause themselves stress when they had additional time to complete the project. I see this in play out every day in all of my relationships, and I try to help people to understand where I, and others, are coming from. This was an incredibly small example, but can you imagine if everyone knew and followed MBTI and understood others personality types? We might actually be able to achieve world peace!

I’d love to hear what you think! Email me and let’s start a conversation.

Link to MBTI Training Institute: https://mbtitraininginstitute.myersbriggs.org/

Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

Additionally, I have a free gift offering! When you sign up for my newsletter on my website, you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here: Teal’s Newsletter

Happy Sunday!

Love,
Teal

Why You Want to Know & Use MBTI to Live Your Best Life

I’ve decided to do a series on the Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator for the next several months. I thought I’d start today with a little bit about why you might want to know your MBTI type. Next week, I’ll discuss why you might want to know the type of others in your life. After that, I will explain a bit more about how you can use MBTI to apply these in your day-to-day life. Then, I will really get into specific types and the differences between them.

I want to start out with a reminder that all type preferences are equal. No type preference is better than another, and we all use each preference type in our day to day life. The big reason that you would want to know your preference type and to understand it, is that if you are living your life in another preference type letter consistently, this will cause you emotional and mental stress, and this is what leads to burn out, whether it be in your job, or relationships or any other areas of life.

Have you ever felt stressed for an extended period of time and felt unable to get out of that feeling, which then leads to extreme burn out? Or maybe you are currently experiencing this? You were likely living in a preference letter that isn’t indicative of your true preference type, and your psyche becomes stressed, and is trying to show you that it isn’t comfortable living in a preference type letter that suits you.

For a fairly obvious example, a person with a preference for introversion who is constantly forcing themselves to extrovert, will become tired and agitated after a certain period of time, as the mind continually tries to pull the person back to their natural way of being. The person with an introversion preference is not being recharged in the way that the brain requires. It would be the same for a person with a preference for extroversion trying to recharge using introversion. It won’t work for them, and the opposite of recharging will happen. This happens with all the preference types letters as well.

Therefore, the MBTI training institute says that no one has a preference for both letters (i.e. an ambivert) . Everyone uses all 8 letters on any given day; however, you have a natural preference for one letter over another. It is also great to establish your use of the opposite preference type letter but learning how to switch it off when you feel yourself get too stressed is key. This is where self-care really comes in and knowing when to take a break.

I’d love to hear what you think! Email me and let’s start a conversation.

Link to MBTI Training Institute: https://mbtitraininginstitute.myersbriggs.org/

Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

Additionally, I have a free gift offering! When you sign up for my newsletter on my website, you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here: Teal’s Newsletter

Happy Sunday!

Love,
Teal

The Surrender Experiment

I finished reading the Surrender Experiment, by Michael A. Singer in one day. One. Day. It was SO good. My theory is that he is an INTP, and he is a really great storyteller. It really inspired me to set out to silence the constant chatter in my brain, and work on surrendering to what life throws my way.

For those that have no clue what the book is about, it’s about a man who was working on an economics PhD, and before he completed it, he began to start doing yoga and meditating a significant amount of time to calm his inner voice. He decided one day that he wouldn’t let the inner voice control his life, and he would surrender to whatever life brought him. He then lived his life by allowing life to dictate his plans, instead of his own inner voice. He started out living in the woods, and by then end of the book was a millionaire who had been CEO of a tech company.

Despite the outcome of the story, it was an inspiring tale of training your inner voice to shut the heck up. I’ve practiced this all week, meditating more, and surrendering more. At one point, I was searching for a complex answer to a question for work, and I started feeling a usual flutter of anxiety in my chest that comes with not knowing the answer. Then, I told myself to surrender and let go. Two minutes later, the answer literally popped into my head. Now, one could argue that all I did was give it the space to come up, but honestly, I don’t think it matters. I think you could call it divine insight or clearing the anxiety to allow my brain to work, but it accomplished the same result.

Anyway, give it a read and let me know what you think. I thought it was fantastic.

Please send me feedback! Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

Additionally, I have a free gift offering! When you sign up for my newsletter on my website, you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here: Teal’s Newsletter

Love,

Teal

Power vs. Force

Happy Sunday everyone! I have been reading the book “Power vs. Force” by David R. Hawkins, and it is fantastic. It’s an odd transition from muscle testing to the metaphysical, but it is based on scientific testing for proof and it is powerful. The book teaches that every person has their own level of energy calibration. Some people calibrate at a level of 500, which is love, and some calibrate at 50, which is shame. The highest that one can calibrate at is 1,000, and this level is called enlightenment, and only several people over the course of the universe have calibrated at that level; think Gandhi or Jesus. There are many levels that one can calibrate in between those examples, but the point is that we all have an energy calibration that we exist in and base our realities in.

I found it incredibly interesting that he mentions that people who calibrate at a high level (700-1,000) can bring thousands of people up several levels of their own calibration. As Mike Dooley, the author of “Notes from the Universe” puts it, “thoughts become things, but not all thoughts are the same.” Truly positive, altruistic thoughts bring up the level of calibration of people all around you. On the other hand, an extremely low calibration can bring many people down, however, the positive calibrations are much more powerful and strong than the negative.

Over time in history it has been proven that power is much more effective and positive than force. Force is used when people are calibrating at a lower level and are using force to exert their will on a certain community, or on the world at large.

Anyway, I highly recommend the book! Let me know if you have read it or are interested in reading it, and feel free to email me if you want to chat further: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

Additionally, please sign up for my newsletter on my website, and you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here: Teal’s Newsletter

Mike Dooley’s website: https://www.tut.com/

Manifestation Snapback

Given that the new year has just begun, there have been so many classes and articles on manifesting. If you haven’t heard of manifesting, it’s basically telling the universe that you already have what you desire, and by affirming that it is true, your dreams start to manifest. It’s a lot more complex than that, but that’s the basic version. In this article, I am going to assume some familiarity with it, but please look it up if you are curious to learn about it.

Now, we’ve all had those moments when we are manifesting the heck out of our dreams, but suddenly someone we know and love well (our best friend, our mom, our significant other) suddenly gets angry at us. Or we don’t get that promotion we hoped for at work. Or something as simple as getting hurt, for example, I fell off my bike the other day and felt crippled for an entire week.

I like to call this conundrum manifestation snapback. It’s when we are going along smoothly with our new hopes and dreams, and we’ve put it all out there to the universe (thank you Universe for everything you are doing for me!) and then suddenly, something happens that makes you think “what the actual f***?”

I believe there are a number of reasons for this snapback (meaning the universe suddenly seems to be conspiring against you). First, when it comes to other people, you are technically cutting your old self off from them and the people in your life have the most to lose. They suddenly start to see you shining like a golden star, and they get upset because you are leaving them behind and have also forced them to take a cold, hard look at their own comfortable choices or beliefs. Another thing that happens is that your brain’s neural pathways try to pull you back to the normal pathway they are used to running. They almost start to short circuit because you are forcing them to run these new neural pathways, and the brain gets slightly confused and tries to pull you back to status quo. Lastly, I think the universe throws some challenges at you just to make sure you really mean what you are asking for. It’s kind of like a test – “does Susie really want a loving relationship? Maybe I can throw some drama her way to make sure she doesn’t want that instead.”

The solution to overcoming this snapback isn’t super easy. But what I have found over the years is that you must just. keep. going. When you notice the snapback, try not to have a break down, but try to work through it instead. Sometimes this involves letting some things go, even if it is painful. The more times you work through the snapback, the less persistent it becomes, and then voila! One day you have manifested your dreams and the snapback has disappeared.

Please let me know what you think! Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

Additionally, I have a new free gift! When you sign up for my newsletter on my website, you will receive a free PDF about MBTI Type Dynamics. Sign up here: Teal’s Newsletter

The Personality Type Temperament and Spirituality

The concept of personality type temperament and spirituality has come up a lot in the course of my day to day discussions this week, so I thought I’d share some thoughts on it and ask for some feedback. Let me know if you agree or disagree in the comments or email me at infinitetealskies@gmail.com. I am genuinely interested to know what you all think!

It seems very likely that spirituality manifests itself in different forms based on your personality temperament.

  • For example, as an NF, I believe that for me, spirituality comes to me in the form of connecting to a deeper meaning, or a higher power, whatever that might be and then using learning as a deeper way to get closer to that meaning.
  • For SF’s, they prefer a sense of community and connection to said community, and then they take their past experiences as a way to learn and apply values currently to connect with their concept of spirituality.
  • For NT’s, they need something that can relate new learning and concepts to, and the need the ability to discard what doesn’t make sense to them. They can then take all they have learned and create their own definition of spirituality.
  • For ST’s, they generally prefer rules and regulations about how to identify with spirituality. They may enjoy a sense of community, but within that, they need to be given clear guidelines as a way to connect to their own spirituality.

I know a lot about the NF temperament type given that I am an NF type, but let me know if you are any of the other temperaments, as I’d love to hear your thoughts. In fact, feel free to share if you are an NF as well, I love other perspectives! Feel free to leave a comment or email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com

Love always,
Teal