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Hi everyone! I am now a MBTI® certified practitioner! If you have taken the paid test, or a free test before and are interested in learning more, I am your girl 🙂

My fee is $200 per session, and I will learn more about you and ask questions to get to your preferred personality type. We will work through each set of personality type letters, and determine your best fit type. Feel free to reach out to me with questions as well. Here are some of the reasons why you may want to know your preferred type:

» Great for determining your best fit career, or finding a new career if your current career doesn’t fit

» Great for finding common ground with others and understanding where they may be coming from

» Dig in to determine why you answered the questions the way you did, and determine if this is really your best fit type

» It’s essential for wellness and self care. To determine what you need to be your best self, you must first understand yourself

There are multiple other reasons to find out your preferred type and I am here to help!

Email me for questions, or to set up your session.

Happy Sunday!

Teal

Twilight Zoning

People are starting to go back into offices & kids are going back to school. The traffic has picked back up and is almost as bad as it “used to be”, before COVID-19 in March 2020 changed the world. People keep saying things like “when everything goes back to normal”. But when they go back to the office, and supposedly going back to normal, I have heard many say that it hasn’t felt the same as it once did. 

For one thing, the whole world realized that the majority of the work force could do everything they needed to remotely. And if they couldn’t, they were forced to figure out a solution to it. And they did. So many new ways of doing things were being innovated, that 2020 may well be the most creative time period in the history of the world. That creative energy permeated and sent creative energy vibes to everyone, everywhere in the world. There was collaboration and new friends were made, also all over the world. 

2021 hasn’t been quite that innovative. The creative energy that was expanding everyone’s minds in 2020 has been put into all the projects it needed to be put into. As a result, I feel the stagnant energy and boredom shining through. People are becoming restless and looking for the next “new” wave of energy. Everyone is thinking that going back to normal will solve this restless energy, but the truth is that it won’t. Because the situation will never be the same as it once was, and most importantly, YOU will never be the same as you once were. 

We were all forced to take a look at what wasn’t serving us in our lives by being isolated and learning to be so flexible with all the mandates and changes that each day held for us. All of us have shifted and changed for an entire year and a half, and expecting things to be exactly as they were when we left is almost like an episode of the Twilight Zone. A lot of things changed in 1.5 years and we can’t just decide that the way forward is to technically move backward. Or we can I guess, but that isn’t very productive. 

So, my question for you today is, what are you going to do? What is 2022 going to look like for you? Are you going to try and find a new project or way of living that suits the new you? Or are you happy to try to forget that the last 1.5 years even happened? Are you feeling that stagnant energy and boredom in your own life? What can you do to mitigate it? 

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Love, 

Teal 

We Are All Human, and We All Have “Stuff”

I’ve been reminded again and again over the last few days how easy it is to disassociate from people we don’t know. It’s easy to think that people we don’t know don’t have any issues or pain, and on an even farther scale, that they are actually somehow evil or bad. The thing is, we are all human. We all go through this thing called life, and not a single person has it easy. We are all here to learn and grow and figure out what the meaning is for each of us. No one has the right to determine that for anyone else.  

So please, can we move forward with a little more compassion? Sometimes, it’s helpful to ask “what if” questions about every single person encountered: “What if someone they loved just died?” “What if they have been through a traumatic event recently or at any time in their life?” “What if they have crippling perfectionism or anxiety based on their less than perfect childhood?” Because chances are, even if not the questions asked, that something is true for them.

What if we move forward with curiosity about others instead of judgement? What if we choose love over fear? What if we remember that we aren’t the only person on earth who matters? 

I’ve even encountered people judging others for being too quiet, too lazy, making different decisions than themselves, or not having the same drive as themselves. Not everyone needs to be a carbon copy of each other. If we were, the world would be extremely boring. I’m reminded of the book The Giver by Lois Lowry. Let’s not inadvertently make this into that world. 

I’m not saying this should be a perfect practice. If we were perfect, we wouldn’t be human. Self-care still matters, your own voice still matters, your boundaries still matter. I was just hoping that maybe we could approach each other with a tiny bit less judgement. 

*Disclaimer: if someone is actually trying to harm you, you have every right to defend yourself & get out of the situation. 

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Teal 

INFX Types and How the Remote Work Possibility Changed Everything

Introverted intuitive feelers (INFJ’s and INFP’s) in the Myer’s Briggs Type Indicator are commonly known as being quiet, sensitive and kind. When the COVID ‘19 pandemic hit back in early 2020 in the Unites States, many INFX types were forced to work completely remotely, possibly for the first time, and possibly permanently, because many companies realized they could save money on office space by having remote employees. 

This new remote working environment seemed to be a significant win for most people of these types, as they aren’t the majority of the population. INFJ’s make up about 1.5% of the population, and INFP’s make up 4.4%. This is shown by the following data with the spread of personality type distribution over the general population: Personality Type Distribution by Michael T Robinson. 

So, with a little under 6% representation of the population, many of these types day-to-day needs and preferences often and easily get overlooked, due to their quiet natures and desire to avoid conflict by speaking up about it. These types need quiet, alone time for processing and for rejuvenation of energy levels. Hopefully remote work will become more common even now that the pandemic is lifting because it is very beneficial for these sensitive personality types. While these types do enjoy collaboration and connection with others, and sometimes even working with others, they also need a lot more alone time than the average person. It would be great if a common reason for working remotely takes personality type into consideration, but we have a long way to go before this is commonly recognized in the world. Working one day per week in the office could even be an option, as this will allow these types to have a chance to connect with their teammates, but allow for greater concentration and less burn out if they are able to focus their energy from a place that greater supports their nervous system. 

Of course, there is the possibility that someone of this type may have less than ideal working from home conditions. In that case, special consideration should be made to allow this type of personality to have their own office, or own space, instead of forcing them to sit in a collaborative work space within the office. Just before the pandemic, the “open-office” plan had become extremely popular for companies and firms who prided themselves on collaboration and the “team approach” to problem solving. Here is an article about the history of this concept: History of Open Office Spaces by Alyse Kalish. 

While this is great for many types, and specifically the most common types in the United States, it is not great for INFX types. Introverted, intuitive, feelers need a lot of alone to process information they receive from the world, and having to constantly listen to others talking or even participating in conversations will not allow these types to be at their best for learning and processing information. Additionally, they are intuitive, which means that they relate to the world through intangible theorizing, which of course, happens in the mind. While the most common second letter type; sensing, uses the five senses to engage with the world, intuitives have to process things through the mind to fully understand and relate to others and problems that arise. Lastly, because they are feeling (the opposite letter being thinking), they are usually fairly emotionally sensitive. 

All of these traits together usually make INFX types very sensitive. They are sensitive to loud noises, smells, strong lights, and their energy is typically drained quite quickly with those types of sensory inputs. They can easily be prone to sensory overload, and when that happens, they are unable to process any new information. When we allow these types to either work from home, to have a private space in the office, they will thrive. By allowing them to thrive, companies are allowing their assets to be at their best and perform their best work. You wouldn’t run your brand-new Lexus for hours on end, not allowing it to take a break except for gas, and let people scratch it and let it sit out in the sun with its fresh coat of paint. So, companies shouldn’t let their employee assets burn out either. INFX types are typically very dedicated to what they do, and will likely be a wonderful asset for many companies if they are allowed to create their own space and take things at their own pace. 

Thank you, COVID-19, for teaching the world a very important lesson. When we all went remote, the INFX types started to shine. Their energy levels were repleted, and they were allowed to do things their way, which was a beautiful reminder that there are all different types of people in the world, and not everyone does or processes things the same way. It would be great if companies and firms could start adopting the Myers Briggs Type Indicator, NOT as a way to typecast or stereotype, but as a way to allow each individual to be their best, and create a work environment that really allows them, as an individual person, to shine. 

Let me know what you think! Email Me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com  

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Love, 

Teal 

Boundaries

I’ve learned a lot about boundaries in the last year. I think it’s important to write about them because not many people truly know what they are. Some people put up a wall, and decide that’s their boundary. Some people make impossible rules for their family members and close friends to follow. Some people yell and scream when someone else makes a mistake and call it a boundary. I am not saying all this to point a finger at anyone. I’ve just been observing for most of my life, and realized that most people, despite all the “boundary setting” self-care jargon that goes around, have absolutely no idea how set a meaningful and realistic boundary. Myself included, at least up until this point. 

Boundaries come from a place of deep love. Yes, they come from self-care, but they actually come from deep love of the other person/people as well. When we set boundaries, it is a realistic expectation, and it comes from a realistic state of being. For example, if I get tired after three hours of socializing, setting the boundary can be lovingly telling the person I am with that I must go home after three hours. Otherwise, I will be drained of all my energy. I will be tired the next day, and I will be resentful of them if I don’t let them know how I feel. Others aren’t mind-readers, and most others want you to be happy because they love you. If they don’t want you to be happy, then the relationship is worth re-thinking. I am by no means telling people to start cutting off relationships, but maybe take a look at where the disconnect lies. And yes, this requires a lot of self-reflection and self-inquiry, but it is worth it when you are able to find an energetic balance in life that works well for you. 

My more recent realization is that when setting a boundary, you are setting this boundary out of a love and consideration for the other person. If you are expecting them to read your mind, and then becoming resentful of them because they didn’t, you are the one not being considerate of them. This was hard for me to swallow (and still is) because I think of myself as a truly conscientious person, but I hate creating conflict. Setting boundaries is hard for me. But if I want to truly care for someone else, I must tell them when I am being pushed too hard. Easier said than done, and I am by no means an expert, or even close to being good at this yet. I think success and ease come over time and with practice, and I am just starting at the beginning. 

I hope this helps someone out there struggling with what boundaries mean to them. I am happy to have a dialogue if anyone has questions or wants to talk about it further. 

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Teal 

Living in the Past or Future

I’ve been doing A Course in Miracles, and started in on lesson eight today. Most of these concepts are ones I already apply to most of my thoughts and everyday life, but they are great reminders to pay attention to that pesky narrative that your thinking mind tries to impose on you. Today’s lesson is to think about how your thoughts are actually past thoughts. What I am interpreting the book to mean is that everything your thinking mind can think of, is something you have already seen, done, or created a neural pathway for in your brain for. You can project the future (or I like to call it “future project”), but the projection will be limited to anything you have already known in the past because you can’t predict something you have never experienced before. 

As an INFJ, and using introverted intuition as my hero function, I naturally future project, so this lesson really resonates with me. It’s a great reminder to be here now, in the present, and the lesson mentions that this means that your mind should be a blank slate when you are actually in the present. If you are fully living in the present, you cannot be truly thinking of anything else. Additionally, the past isn’t the current moment and when thinking about the past, you aren’t actually visually seeing the past. So, what you are thinking about doesn’t currently exist. Therefore, the only way to live is in the present. 

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Love, 

Teal 

Introversion versus Shyness

In our society, the word “shy” seems to be the go-to word for anyone who seems quiet. People notice those who don’t speak much, and instantly label them shy. However, there is a big difference in the meaning of shy and introversion. Additionally, social anxiety tends to go along with shyness, not necessarily introversion. 

Shyness comes from a fear of speaking or being judged. Shyness goes hand in hand with social anxiety, or they might just be the external and internal expressions of the same thing, respectively. Being shy comes from an actual fear and physical reaction to being the center of attention, and fear of speaking out loud. A person who experiences social anxiety may experience physical symptoms of being shy; they may get sweaty, have a racing heart or feel nauseous when in social situations. Extroverts as well as introverts can each have social anxiety or shyness. It is not limited to type preference.  

Introversion is a type preference in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. It means that someone prefers to recharge by themselves, or at least in a relaxing environment where they can do their own thing. They also process things slowly, and tend to think before responding to external stimuli or making a decision. Their energy is drained by consistent social interaction with no breaks or recharge time. They may prefer to stay home versus going to a party with many people they don’t know. Internally, they like to think before speaking, but this does not equate to “shyness”. Introversion does not mean that someone is afraid of speaking, it is actually literally the way that someone processes external stimuli and outwardly expresses it. 

The difference in the two is an important distinction. When we label people who don’t talk much as shy, we are assuming they have something wrong with them that needs to be treated. Introversion is NOT something to be treated. Social anxiety is, to the extent that we are attempting to help the person not feel anxious in social situations, and as long as they are open to treatment. The treatment does not necessarily need to be medication either. Treatment can include therapy, tools (such as breathing work or cognitive reframing) to help the person in social settings and/or in some cases medication. 

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Love, 

Teal 

The Midnight Library

The Midnight Library was a fantastic read & a great reminder about what to prioritize in life. For a quick summary, the story centers around Nora, a woman in her 30’s who feels dejected by most of the people in her life, and feels woefully inadequate and isn’t sure if she has turned down several possible promising trajectories her life could have taken based on her particular hobbies and studies. At some point, she finds herself in the Midnight Library, which allows her to see what would have happened in life if she had followed those other paths, and even some more mundane choices she could have made. I believe that the book’s goal is to point out to us that we can question “what if I had done it this way?” for the rest of our lives, but if we aren’t content to live in the present moment, and create and nurture our most important relationships, life isn’t worth living. 

Anyway, the story was interesting and engaging and certainly worth the read. For me, it served as a reminder to reach out to those who I hadn’t spoken to in a while, show my deep appreciation for those I love and that care for me, and also a reminder to really put in the effort to understand where someone else is coming from instead of allowing myself to just react to their actions. And the biggest one of all, it reminded me to SPEAK UP when I am uncomfortable, or unhappy with the way someone is treating me. A lot of times the other person just doesn’t know they are doing it, and the relationship suffers because I am unhappy and haven’t said anything.  

Another common theme is to be kind to yourself. There may be circumstances you can’t control, but it doesn’t mean you are a bad person. I thought the book had a lot of positive messages, even if the undercurrent was a bit dark (TW: it does contain suicide). 

Check it out if you are interested!

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Love, 

Teal 

Wonder

Wonder is a theme word that has come up for me lately. It is such a joyous word, and I want to try and remember to create and approach new and old situations with a sense of wonder. This creates a sense of open-ness and expansion in the mind, instead of constriction. It opens your mind up to new possibilities, allowing it to be creative with new solutions and new ways of looking at the same problem. 

For a very basic start, when a problem comes up, try asking yourself: 

  • I wonder what would happen if I approached this from a new perspective? 
  • I wonder if I could try to see where the other person is coming from? 
  • I wonder whether there are more solutions to the problem than I am currently seeing? 

It’s not even necessary to know all the answers, but just creating that curiosity will create joy and expansion from the inside-out. 

Another way to create wonder is to notice the world through a lens of wonder. For example, I have started taking daily walks through my neighborhood, and I notice all the different types of flowers blooming in people’s yards. I stop and take pictures of most of them. Now I anticipate my daily walks because of the sense of wonder that has been created around seeing a new flower; a new color, a new type of flower, a new bee or animal near the flowers.  

A sense of wonder helps to calibrate your energy to a higher level, where wonders never cease! 

Let me know if this resonates with you, or if you have other ideas on how to create a sense of wonder in your life. Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com  

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Teal 

Intuition versus Sensing

The most confusion in the Myers Briggs typing indicator, is typically the second letter of the four-letter types, N or S; intuition or sensing. A lot of times people use both, and are unsure which they use more of, and more often than not, I have found that this letter preference is hardest for opposite types to be accepting of, and accommodating of. 

To explain intuition, as an extreme example, think about the people who are always questioning the meaning of life. They live in the intangible world of theory and the abstract. To explain sensing, as again an extreme example, think of the person who lives in the five senses. When they are driving a car, for example, they are part of the car, they feel the car, they hear the car, they see how it looks and memorize what color it is. They live in the tangible world. 

Here is a list of words I came up with to show the opposition of the processing of each type intuition versus sensing, respectively; intangible versus tangible, mind versus body, 6th sense versus 5 senses, conceptual/abstract versus concrete, future oriented versus past & present oriented, searches for a deeper meaning versus focuses on current experience, big-picture versus specific.

Let me know if any of this resonates with you, and if you are still struggling with whether you take in information through intuition or through sensing. I’d love to know your thoughts and if this helped to clarify it for you or not! 

I’d love to hear what you have to say!  Email me: infinitetealskies@gmail.com 

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Love, 

Teal 

Impatience

The topic of impatience has come up a lot for me lately, and not to mention, it was a recent topic in Lauren Sapala’s most recent class called The Joyful Writer. I never thought of myself as an impatient person, in fact, I had been complimented on my extreme patience and low maintenance in the past. But I recently realized that while I have patience for other people, I do not have patience with myself. In fact, I was so caught up in being impatient with myself and feeling like I was running out of time all the time, that was what was causing issues in my closest relationships. 

I treat time like a commodity that there isn’t enough of. Like I will never have enough time to complete all the things I want to complete in this life, I will never be able to read all the books I want to read, meet all the people I want to meet. So instead of going slowly and being in the present moment, I was constantly living in the future, trying to blow through everything I felt that I had to do so that I didn’t miss out on anything. I was setting myself schedules that I was adhering to very strictly, and it didn’t help that I have about eight-ten meetings per day for work, causing me to stress that I wouldn’t make it to each one of them if I didn’t keep a close eye on the time. 

Another part of impatience with myself is perfectionism, and asking myself why I can’t just get things done faster that are perfect? When I am going slowly with something, and it isn’t turning out the way I want it to, that’s another aspect to impatience. 

Does anyone else experience this, and if so, what is your experience with it? Are there other things that you recognize as impatience with yourself? I recently went on vacation in Mexico for eight days, and my brain & body forced me to relax. I opened up my computer and the words on the screen actually appeared fuzzy, and my head felt like it was in a fog. I took eight glorious days and spent each present moment with my partner. I didn’t do any work, or anything that I felt like had to be perfect. It was the ultimate reset, and I haven’t gone back to my impatient ways just yet. However, I do feel lazy, and my current goal is to find the right balance between doing and resting. 

Write to me and let me know if you experience impatience with yourself! I’d love to hear what you have to say & start a discussion about it: infinitetealskies@gmail.com 

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Love, 

Teal